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been doing a bit of this…


…am questioning a few things about myself and why I blog…

I feel like I’m coming out of the trenches of motherhood and find myself wondering what I’m doing, why I’m doing it.  What is my style, do I have one?  Am I earthy? Am I modern?  A mix?  I find myself appreciating so many different styles. Where do I go from here?  And it’s more than just sewing and blogging.  I find myself wanting different things, is the blog world setting us up for wanting?  Do we just read blogs thinking: I wish I had that, or I wish I could be more like that?  Deep thoughts, for sure, ha. 

How about you?  Do you know your style?  What makes you, YOU?  Are you defined by the people around you?  Does blogging make you a better person (or maybe worse)?

Those are the questions that keep tumbling through my head day after day recently.


51 Responses to

  1. Melissa 06.17.2010 at 7:46 pm #

    I was telling a friend of mine the other day “sometimes I wish I could just make something with a pattern and not worry about making something NEW or writing about how to do it or putting it on my blog”…
    Blogging definitely adds a whole new dimension to the creative process. Sometimes I think it pushes me to try new things thus increasing my creativity… and MAKING me get stuff done.
    Then other times it’s a bit overwhelming to me .. right now with all the kids out of school I feel like I’m losing my “mojo” and keep asking myself the same things! Why am I doing this anyway???
    In the end though- I know I would miss it and I really believe that all of this will lead to more opportunities in the future..
    As far as style, I just accepted the fact that I”m all over the place… sometimes girly, sometimes simple, etc…

  2. angelina 06.17.2010 at 7:50 pm #

    why i blog..i am a foreigner in a country where the women in particular are quite unfriendly(i find, no offense). blogging links me with a group of women in the world and i truly am lifted by comments, help, and feedback from them. i love reading others blogs, and being a leo myself, get help literally by helping others . its all about outreach. if you feel envy or like you want to be somebody else when you see their space, instead just try to change that thought into a happiness for them and take what you can to add it into your life as well. light comes from all beings here i believe. peace to you

  3. Vanessa 06.17.2010 at 7:58 pm #

    Wow. I have definitely been feeling a lot of the same lately. I keep wondering just how much more productive I could be if I weren’t always looking for ideas on line or getting bummed out by a case of “I wish”. It is so easy to get caught up in reading and browsing about what everyone else is doing and not actually get much done. I think it’s a double-edged sword…blogs,etc. Without them I wouldn’t be sewing or connecting with some really cool people I wouldn’t ordinarily meet. Without them I wouldn’t be feel the need to push the creative envelope, so to speak. I think as a stay at home mom living in an area where Nascar is about as cultural as things get, blogs are a lifeline and a reminder not to get complacent. As far as having a particular style. . . can’t say that I have one. I like what I like-no rhyme or reason!

    Great food for thought!

  4. Vanessa/NessieNoodle 06.17.2010 at 7:58 pm #

    I think with blogging it is really easy to start judging yourself and what you do. We get a glimpse into lives and maybe not the whole picture (which is great, but can also be frustrating when you hit a rough spot and wonder why eveyone else seems to be sailing thru smoothly).

    I blog as a way to journal my journey and share with friends and family that are far away- If I have other readers stop by and enjoy my photos/words/adventures then that is great too- I read blogs for inspiration (like yours) for creativity, and for amazing ideas that everyone shares. I also really enjoy (though things have shifted a bit since I began 5 years ago) the community of friends I have found out here in the blog-sphere.

    Give yourslef some time- I find great inspiration from your spot (and have lots of your tutorials on my to make list). but you need to find your rhythm and your space.

    best wishes~

  5. Regan Rothery 06.17.2010 at 8:01 pm #

    I was just wondering about my style the other day as I finished a shirt that’s pushing my style into the 500 Days of Summer territory, which I love, but may not be “me”. Damned if I won’t wear it though, ha!

    But I think blogging makes me a better person, at least as a mom and wife (I’m perfect at everything else, hahaha). The funny thing about it is that I’ll put stuff in my blog because I know no one that really “knows” me in person reads it, so it’s almost like revealing a secret. Only the readers don’t know that because while we know each other, we don’t, you know? I love that therapy. I love posts like this, seeing the pieces of a person you don’t really know, but you do. It’s so endearing, powerful in a way. It’s lovely to see the humanity we all have that gets hidden away because living completely openly would be exhausting. Sometimes we need to retreat into ourselves, and sometimes we need the sounding board of a blog that’s both anonymous and personal. That’s the power of blogs. The downside, like you mentioned, is my penchant for envy and *wanting*. Ohhhhh, the wanting.

  6. tammiemarie 06.17.2010 at 8:03 pm #

    i started my blog to motivate myself and keep track of patterns i wanted to try, not because i thought anyone would actually read it. and i’ve made a few friends, and it’s inspired me daily to try to make something. but i also have a young family, and they need to be my first commitment. sometimes it’s hard to not resent the lack of “me” time, i really try to keep that in check.

  7. Melanie 06.17.2010 at 8:19 pm #

    Ah, the great blogger question! Especially for us moms. Sometimes I spend too much time on the computer in a day, or get not enough sleep at night, but in the end, I just love doing what I do. Most of our crafting and sewing is not for ourselves, and since I have a hard time verbally reaching out to people, it is a perfect alternative for me to show someone I am thinking of them.
    It also helped me know my style! I really, really can avoid shabby chic for my entire life and die happy. I love simple and usually go for the less-is-more approach. Burlap is not my friend, and I am sure I have turned away followers for that reason! But I can’t do something just so someone will like me more- I have to like me first :)

  8. Beth 06.17.2010 at 8:19 pm #

    Ditto the first Vanessa!! I love the inspiration but find it almost addicting. I find myself wanting more than before and I sometimes wonder if I’m actually making my life more difficult – less simple. I don’t blog myself – I already waste too much time reading other blogs! On the other hand I am so pround of the new things I am trying and learning!

  9. Sally 06.17.2010 at 8:23 pm #

    I am LOL because I am 60 and I still have all your thoughts. The “oohs” and “ahhh’s” of all crafty deliciousness and many styles that flood our brains…it’s all good. Only I don’t blog…who has time??? BUT I applaud you for sharing…I LOVE your ruffled clutch…I want to make one…but I need to find the time…other projects already in motion. Creativity is good for the soul.

  10. Andréann 06.17.2010 at 8:25 pm #

    I started blogging because .. I really don’t know!
    I’ve started browsing blog when I was looking for inspiration to make a grown up bedroom for my daughter. than I found sewing blogs, which made me start sewing!
    I find it fun to post projects I made and get 4-5 comments for them. I don’t have much followers but it’s usually the same persons commenting and I find it great to get to know people I wouldn’t if I didn’t have my blog.I’m a young stay-at-home pagan mom which makes it hard to find people a like in my region.

    I have that envy and wish all the time! It actually made me get some labels for my clothing! I wish I could afford more designer fabric too.. Oh well.

    As for the style… I’m all over the place as well!

  11. Blogging has broadened my horizons. I see things and, because of everyone else being about to do it, I realize I too can do it. My style…totally open and honest. My readers know my lows and my highs. They help hold me up and I do the same for them. Blogging has made the world smaller for me. It is a good community of people that learn to love one another without even seeing them in person.

  12. Jacqui 06.17.2010 at 8:33 pm #

    I started blogging as a way of documenting what I was already doing, and in a way it’s been the driver for that side of me, when you feel like you have an audience then there is pressure to perform and that starts to make it not fun. But there is also the option to not do a post every day and to not sew something new and wonderful – I guess it depends on what you see your blog as. I don’t want to care how many readers I have, or comments, or page views or whatever, but boy it’s hard not to. Really hard. For me blogging helped define my style, such as it is. If someone asked me what it was I wouldn’t be able to tell them but I could point them to my blog and I think it would become apparent. It certainly is for me on other people’s blogs. Trying to let go of the pressure and the wanting (yes the internet definitely makes that worse!) and the infinite inspiration is hard for me, but doing it will definitely make me a better person! Now if only I could prune down my Reader to 20 blogs I’d be home free and a heck of a lot more productive in all areas of my life!

  13. alayne 06.17.2010 at 9:08 pm #

    I’ve been reading blogs for a little while now, but just started my own last month – reading them because I had lost a bit of myself mothering for so many years neglecting myself in so many ways and was trying to find me again. I started my own because I’ve been so inspired by all the blogs I read – yours not the least! It’s inspiring to read what people are doing. A connection that I don’t necessarily feel I get around here. In my own blog, I just wanted a place to put down what I am doing, for myself, but also in the hopes that I can connect with other people, to share what I know, to learn what they know. As a stay at home mom, I get lost and lonely at different times throughout the day, blogging and email are my ways to remember that there are other moms out there feeling and doing similar things – all right there for me to read – when I need it most.

    But, it is merely a glimpse into someone’s life. You don’t get the bad with the good unless they are willing to share that with you. But, it’s important to know that we all struggle – moms and non-moms alike – just people on a path – individual, but connected and overlapping. I find it nice just to “hang out” and see what’s up. Connections to other moms with hobbies and lifestyles that are both different from mine and the same. You can’t know dark without light, green without red, happy without sad… It’s fun to take what others know and truly make it my own, in my own way.

    You have given me so many ideas. In fact, I just bought the supplies to make the bicycle bucket for my son!!! Either tonight or tomorrow…

    Good luck with all your thinking. It can really weigh on you, I know.

  14. Jeannie 06.17.2010 at 9:27 pm #

    You ladies are amazing and talented and I have fun reading and trying your projects but life changes and it’s ok to take a break. Sometimes it takes just some real quiet time to find what it is you want to do next!

  15. nanasknoll 06.17.2010 at 10:12 pm #

    I am mostly confined to my home with just one car and hubby working, so I enjoy blogging and feel connected to people. Even if I only have 5 followers. I do wonder how you get the blogs out there to more people.
    It also motivates me to get my creative juices going and make thing that are fun.
    Also I try and put on things like making powdered laundry detergent to help others save money.
    This is some of the reasons I blog.
    Come look at my site

  16. katy 06.17.2010 at 10:23 pm #

    I have been feeling exactly the same way lately – I think that reading blogs has opened up a little *too much* of the “anything is possible” in me and I sometimes get overwhelmed with all of the things that I *could* be doing. It’s a fine line to walk between being inspired and being overwhelmed. I think your blog is lovely and no matter what direction you go I’m sure you’ll have lots of people following you on your journey.

    And is that a quilt you’re making?! I’ve been doing a lot of that lately as well. Can’t wait to see how it turns out.

  17. Magnolia Designs 06.17.2010 at 10:43 pm #

    I really don’t question my style, it is whatever I like…I think owning what you PERSONALLY like, and not trying to fit into a label or a mold, is what makes most sense to me. I really enjoy my unique tastes.

    As for being a crafty/blogging/creative/busy mom is a hard task to balance. I have really been re-evaluating my life lately…I think I have too much going on for the place I am in my life right now. Realizing that if I give something up momentarily, it doesn’t mean it won’t be available at a later time when life is more manageable. I think my kids get the short end of the stick when I try to not only make/do the projects that I want to, but then also feel compelled to take pictures/edit pictures, blog about it, make a tutorial or a pattern, or teach a class, etc… After all, they are what is most important, the projects and the blog, and everything else will still be there when they’re too busy to be bothered as teenagers. Now, can you remind me of this again tomorrow…lol!!!

  18. Griffith Family 06.17.2010 at 10:45 pm #

    I did blog for a couple of years and found that I was getting caught up in the feedback and lack of and putting too much pressure on myself. My children need me more. I love reading other’s blogs and being inspired, but I don’t miss blogging. Everything has a season and mine is to enjoy my family now and bypass the added pressure. I have a “friend” who used to be a friend in real life but prefers the blog world. It’s very one way for her and she’s very dramatic and advertises it. I feel much pity for her as she is consumed with the sympathy comments from cyber friends. Your blog is fabulous and your posts are inspiring, but if you don’t post for a while I figure you are living your life and you sure don’t want to miss that!

  19. Jenny 06.17.2010 at 10:51 pm #

    Wow, Anna! You have gotten some pretty amazing responses here! My feelings echo a lot of what you said and what many of these ladies have said. I struggle with my place in this whole blogging world. It has pushed me to stretch myself, which had been good. I have met people I never would have otherwise and made some true friends… that is wonderful. But I struggle with the time it takes and how that is time that my children do not have my full attention. I have really been asking myself “What is my niche”??? I feel like I’m having a blog identity crisis just trying to figure out what my style is and what role I play here. Who knows if we will find the answers to our questions. I know that I love my little blog and I love the community here… that is important to me and I know it is to you as well!

  20. Andrea 06.17.2010 at 11:04 pm #

    I feel like I have finally settled on my style for blogging after 3 years. It definitely makes you question lots of things about yourself, your motives, your use of time. I think questioning and reevaluating is crucial! Take your time figuring it out!

  21. Christina 06.17.2010 at 11:07 pm #

    Thoughts on my mind as well. You have obviously noticed my lack of blogging. :)

  22. Christie 06.17.2010 at 11:07 pm #

    I totally feel the same way–especially lately and now that school is out. It’s good to know that others feel the same way. It’s just a lot of work and sometimes it’s really fun and sometimes it’s not. I was just thinking today about how often I want to blog and getting to a point where I don’t feel like I need to just to feel happy. It’s weird because I know it helps me be a happier person, but not when my kids are put on the back burner. Ugh. Hard stuff.

  23. Kacey 06.17.2010 at 11:10 pm #

    I have no set style or anything. I just blog to have a record of my creative life. Maybe that’s why no one reads it…ha. But I blog for me. If others enjoy it, that’s just a bonus.

  24. Lori Danelle 06.17.2010 at 11:14 pm #

    Is there something in the water?? I’ve been thinking on very similar topics.

    I “found” blogs about a year & a half ago and believe firmly that I am better for it. My views on what is possible and what path I want my life to take have been dramatically changed. There is so much out there that inspires and I’ve learned so many new skills & new ideas of what to do with skills I already possess.

    But still, there is A LOT out there to inspire. And sometimes I wish I could find my own niche within it all. Like many creatives, I’m not just good at one thing. I’m a Mom & graphic designer who sews, designs, does letterpress, re-finishes furniture, builds things, draws, paints, takes pictures, and lately, has been cutting a lot of things out of paper with an x-acto knife. Sometimes all of that inspiration & the ideas that follow make me feel like I’m being pulled in a million directions and I’m not really sure which way I should try to focus in on and wind up not giving the attention I would like to give to anything! (not to mention, my house is a mess!!)

    I love it, but would also really love a little bit of focus!!!!

  25. Delia 06.17.2010 at 11:26 pm #

    We must be on the same wavelength. I have been wondering and assessing my blogging priorities too. I definitely love to blog and think it betters me IF I don’t let it get ugly and too time consuming. I am leaning toward blogging less and loving my kids more but not getting rid of it altogether. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. It is nice to know I am not the only one who is mulling over this right now.

    Style…good question. What do you call a style that evolves all the time? :) I have been feeling a little uncomfortable in my own skin. The skin that I have been loving for a while now. It is perplexing to me. I want to change but how…is yet to be answered.

  26. elise engh 06.17.2010 at 11:34 pm #

    I love that you ask these questions. With all the creative and crafty bloggers out there I wonder why I’m doing this too. Am I really adding anything that no one has seen yet? probably not, but blogging is an outlet for me and gives me a way to share my talents. One negative though is I find myself comparing to others a lot more. Not a good thing. I’m working on just being myself, doing my own thing, and not worrying about how I measure up to everyone else.

  27. Mary 06.17.2010 at 11:35 pm #

    I totally understand, and apparently a lot of us feel this way! I can relate to what Vanessa said . . . I recently took a 2 1/2 week break from sewing and spent most of it reading everyone else’s blogs and perusing Flickr. I was getting down on myself for not being more productive, but then I reminded myself that I’m not obligated to anything, and I promised myself when I started my blog that I wouldn’t let it take over my life. It has to be fun!

    I sewed a lot more before I blogged, but it was kind of a bummer to not have anyone else to share it with. I don’t have any “real life” sewing friends, so that makes the blog world really fun for me!

    I also agree when Vanessa said that the blog world is a lifeline to the outside world for stay-at-home moms. SOOOOO true! I don’t get to hang with too many adults these days, and I just love the sewing community. It’s such a friendly and supportive group. Plus blogging/sewing is one of the few things I do just for ME.

    I do feel like blogging makes me shy away from larger projects like quilts. Since they take so long, I can’t blog as often! But I think I’m going to let that go and finish up some of these quilts already!

    Above all, I think that blogging has to be fun for the blogger. And when it’s not fun, it’s okay to take a break!

  28. Laurel @ Ducks in a Row 06.17.2010 at 11:46 pm #

    Gorgeous fabrics!
    I blog and try to stick to things that I would like to read. Once I start freaking out about readers, the less fun it becomes!
    First time to your blog, by the way.

  29. Dahlia 06.18.2010 at 12:01 am #

    I think we may all come to a point like the one you’ve described in all your great questions. Basically, you have to decide what is BEST for you and your dear family.
    I was obsessed with my blog, always checking for comments and I even had thoughts of how I’d make a post while I was doing things with the kids. I coveted